Success you
shall have, a success you shall be. A Child is fed with these notions with his
breakfast, lunch and dinner ever he starts going to pre-nursery school. Right
from that time the parents only concentrate on his studies, I know of families
where such a small child is taken for tuitions. Every day from to morning to
night the child keeps hearing that he has to do well and he has to be first in
his class, the child also does his best. 
He reaches his teens, overfed with idea of success of the academic and
financial kind and watching his parents making sure that nothing should come
between him and his studies. He is made to think of this exam, that
competition, this career and that profession. Parents place their faith in him
and assure him that he shall be a success. So much so that child is kept away
from family activities pleasant or sad. Parents forgo activities like marriages
in the family or death of some near relatives the child is kept away from all
this, the child has to concentrate on his studies only he is not to worry about
any thing else. Leave alone other relatives in his own family too he is not to
get worried even if his mother or father is sick or any other emergency has
come up – he is to only think of his studies as he has to do well in his exams –
parents keep telling him that he is not worry about anything, he should just do
his studies.    

      All this results
in the child not learning the family values, they do not know that they have
some responsibilities towards their family members and the whole family as such.
The never learn that they have to think for others in too as others are
thinking for him. They only learn to take they never learn to give. I know of a
family where the mother was seriously ill and the father had to take leave be
at home to look after his wife, how many days could he leave from the place of
work? The parent just did not involve their son in the crises at home. The
parents never realize what harm they are doing to the child by not letting him learn
that being in a society one has to do for others also.  The parents also do not realize the immense
psychological pressure they are building up within the child.

       What happens if
he is unable achieve what is expected of him? His mind undergoes an explosion.
The idea and conviction that has been founded in him collapse overnight. His
mind becomes hollow and he feels directionless and worthless. However much
consolation he receives, it does not help. This results in frustration of all
kinds of madness and drug addiction and many times suicides. If only the child
been made learn that along with his studies he has to be a helping hand home
and in the neighborhood. The child as he is growing learns that he has to give
many times before he takes. He also becomes equally aware of failure. As the
child grows he must be made to know that failure is essential part of life,
some body succeed and some body fails. Failure is an equally important and some
times even necessary part of life. Failing is not blasphemy, neither a
crime.